Take my hand and let me GUIDE you.
So today is Monday and as it is already known as a day to be grumpy, I will also make it one to rant again. Getting that grumpy out of my system and smile.
It can cost me some readers as some my have already past me, just by reading the Title. But I can only say those people would be ignorant or just unwilling to hear or read this flip side.
What is it about well that is obviously the lack of understanding of people and their narrow views on a topic. Today I chose a post that got me angry and was full of misunderstanding. Does this show some of my colours, yes. Do I care? No. this is who I am and this is my opinion my thought and a flip site after all were we look at things in another way. My way. I am diamond with many facets and this is one of them.
I hope you are here and will read on. At the end you can think what ever you want. All I am hoping for is some understanding and take away some prejudice. The post I am talking about is written on another blog site called, ‘write here’ sort of a ‘blogher’. I came across it last weekend. Now opinions are okay but at least know what one is talking about. And do not get it from a fiction written book.
So the book ’50 shades of… ‘A book about BDSM and according to this person who read it. The real deal. Really got that from a book. It is a guy/girl dynamic? It is always forced? It is about pain? It is abuse? Loud BUZZER sounds. Welcome to the XxX-factor Crow style.
A misconception is that a Dominant does not feel any emotion or affection to their submissive. If you are not part of this world it may easily be thought that way. Those who do visit know that it is even deeper than one can imagine.
There is affection and a great deal to. That you cannot see, does not mean it is not there. The submissive is such a gift to a Dominant. Yes you read it correctly. A gift.
The gift of submission only than can a Dominant have control. It is not forced. It is as delicate as a Tango.
And Yes I know there are those who do it wrong. But they to do not understand and just do what they believe is right. Or have been brought up that way. One can be taught to. Teachings aren’t always correct, just like everything else.
It is all about pain? Well no it does not have to. But you beat her? Uhmm have you slapped your woman on the ass? Or have you been slapped? Welcome to he other side.
There are ways a whip, flogger, cane isn’t even used. Where pain is never involved. But that is not what is shown on the internet or television. No there you only see the extremes. People who have been practicing for years and years.
The dynamic when pain is involved is the kind where the submissive limits are being pushed.
Same as a athlete keeps on running to push his limits to the max.
Oh come on the Dominant forces itself on the submissive. No. A very simple, No. Everything within the world of BDSM is consensual. But that is not what is shown in a book like 50 shades or clips on the internet. But what a shocker, this is something they both enjoy. That a dominant can not do what the submissive does not want. They can push buttons but No means NO. Ever tried to understand that. Or is simply abuse to you.
Ashamed to say there are people who call it BDSM while abusing. But they to, do not understand. They are just vultures who abuse in the name of something much more. I will get back on this. And maybe create some better understanding.
The explanation I am giving here is very short. But do understand it Is not as one reads or sees. There is so much more depth that one cannot say in just a short post. I do how ever ask you, the reader to write down you thoughts. Honest thoughts even if they are prejudices, put them down and I will try to answer each of them the best I can in a post. Afraid to do it in comments. Send me an email and you have my word your name will not be mentioned. Have the guts to try and understand in stead of just judge what you do not understand. Contact page
The layers in this world are limitless and endless. 50 shades barely scratched a surface. And though a taboo has been broken and people talk about it more. There is still a lot of misconception and because of that people are being and getting hurt. People try to dip their toes in a world they do not know and as in every world this new world has vultures to. Do not believe everything you see or read.
I did not like 50 shades one bit. The next picture however I LOVE!
A dance of bodies and minds in passion.
© Alex Krivtsov 2006