Monday Moaning Dating Science
These days we put ourselves out there, where there was a time we were only revealing things when asked, we now share everything to be noticed. Has out fear of being unnoticed grown or is it the fear of being rejected when people do not know everything about you.
Online dating is what uses this a lot if you ask me. We share our likes and dislikes just so we can eliminate any surprises. Pretending to have people know you before you even exchange a word. Now this is a very personal view and thought, but how real are we, or better, how honest re we on those lists. Do we truly put everything out there?
Now I am for one am staying away from online dating, once clicked and wanted to answer the list of questions. And it we can choose not to answer or lie. Let us face it, if they ever asked if you would have had an STD would you answer honestly.
If you say yes, it means you had been irresponsible or your partner simply lied or worse you are a cheater. And once a cheat always a cheat right?
Let us assume you answer truthfully. It means you throw yourself out there ins and outs. Making sure there is as little surprise for those who get to see your profile. One would think it is a god thing.
They can see your likes and dislikes compare themselves with you and either date or fold. Sounds so simple but in reality it might scare you of. The questions one answer are also the expectations, how you want your maybe future partner have to be. Tall, blond, smart and what not.
Have one noticed how long a list we make of our expectations. Of what we want our future partner to be like. And even better we also have a list of big No-No’s.
Online dating has become a science, or so they make us believe, but in the end it is through conversation we truly find out if one is made for each other. Not the list of questions, but the actual meet and talk reveals more about a person than a list can do.
In our country we have a science project going on, on TV. OOH yes we are doing it. Letting science decide who your bride or groom will be and all that through lists of questions and scientific tests as crazy as smelling a worn t-shirt.
Who is a better matchmaker, cupid or science? Talking about controversial right?
How open minded are we truly if we have all information? Can we honestly say we have no expectations when we write down a list of them?
Going in blind seems to scare most of the people of these days, and we use excuses like we do not have the time (time of slavery is long gone, get a life).
Maybe we just like to keep our options open, like men bragged about it in ancient times. Having more than one hooked so we can choose. Talking about being a player. And before you get angry, yeah I did to.
But okay how open minded are we?
When we read a big No-No on a list of our possible candidate, what would you do? Just one of those might have you decide, not to engage. Knowing something in advance can potentially send a fitting partner away to the deleted list. One who would be perfect for you in everything, maybe even willing to change a little for you? But we decided not to try based on information and begs to ask if we are open minded or becoming even more closed minded by throwing ourselves out there like that.
It is not strange to ask or think that we do get closed minded, and search for ways to ease our pains of being let down. That we shield ourselves by putting us and our information out there; with the thought of, if you know already you cannot hurt me with it. And if I know I would not make a mistake by dating you and get hurt.
Thinking that if we pay a monthly fee, the people using it are serious and not just players or worse. Paying for a service to be put up with a list of potentials who still do match up with you, who still have those big No-No’s.
I am pretty sure there are loads of people who may have ended up happy with each other. There are people who used it simply to get laid or just date without expectation.
But in the end the difference that is being made is that the conversation that follows decides all. But with who are you willing to engage that conversation if you knew he once had an STD. To use an extreme example.
We base our decisions on our likes and dislikes, and having to assume a list of questions is answered honestly. Ooh and not to mention about the spot the weirdo blogs or the bad apples. The bad apples read them to. Is it less dangerous than meeting someone for the first time in person?
Personally I do not think so. We still have the same risk of meeting an ask murderer who likes kitties and wears a ‘Hello Kitty PJ’ at night.
Well this is my brain going full swing again. Knowing why the bars are so empty in the weekend and the weekdays are full of people checking their phone all the time, claiming there is no time to date anymore. Dating Science it is a new concept.
Oh and about the TV show, They married a total stranger through the use of science and already show big fails.