Monday Moaning: Talking Sex!

Monday Moaning: Talking Sex 

A subject that boosts every blog in viewers, though it is not my intention. This post is coming form a thought that I got from reading a blog post. And it is more gender related than the actual deed. So many differences within a single word and how we think about it.

In the old days, listen to this old geezer, but still talking about 20 years back it wasn’t common to talk openly about sex. Though in my country it may have been it is not the same everywhere. In this time I seen a lot of change and I think a lot of people have seen it to. How quick we went from keeping it indoors to pretty much see it everywhere. It sells, it most watched and talked about these days.

Remembering talks with other people, one heard different views and opinions. Nobody talked about it openly, but thanks to the internet and being anonymous one could and did. There was and somewhere there still is a taboo surrounding it. But why when it is in our nature.

And that brings us to the reason of this post. How we design rules to justify or control our own behaviour. Creating rules and laws to tell us who and what we are and why we can or should not.

So why are we so obsessed with controlling our sex and the people around us. Even ourselves. To claim what is right or wrong one should first know what is right or wrong. But can we do that.

Depending on culture sex is used for different things. In some regions it is normal to think about ones future and have children to take care of you. Even us westerners had that idea though through change we limit ourselves according to made up rules like; Having to make a career. to ensure a future of good living. Other cultures or maybe even religions dictate sex is only for having children. More and more we now also see the recreational use, thanks to all those new anti conceptions.

So why do we make up things or use a word to control our urges or have something to judge others by saying something is a taboo or plain wrong.

In most countries BDSM is illegal, I know some states uphold this as well. It is after all a law that says abuse is a criminal act. This can be because one does not understand the scene or even lifestyle. Though one can argue the boundaries between abuse and BDSM might be hair thin. So it is a world that hides in shadows and isn’t talked about much. (maybe more now thanks to a certain book and now movie)

That is al about the deed but now what about the gender part. What sex needs rules or words to differentiate a person. Why are we so gung-ho about putting ourselves in boxes or groups while we preach equality.

What makes a straight person straight. Or even a lesbian a “Real” Lesbian or gay. Why do we come up with these terms.

Can every straight man say with a straight face they never checked out a male cock. Hell after sports in the shower did we not check size. Oh guess admitting that would make us afraid to be gay. As a straight person I can admit I tried a man. does that make me bi-sexual all of a sudden (something you did not know about me). Or not a real straight person.

Why do we come up with rules to say who is straight or what kind of person I should be or am according to those useless dictations. The post I read talked about what would make a real Lesbian or Gay for that matter. Why would it be so important to have a rule that creates some kind of supremacy over others.

Sure I admit their might be people who only stayed with their own sex. But does that make them real Gays or Lesbians. So many times we heard stories of people who hid behind their straight lives because words stated that being gay was wrong. Does that make them less gay?

Through rules and laws we build some supremacy and it continues in every thing we do and say. But admitting one have tried a different thing than brings fear so we don’t.

And it is funny how we talk about experimenting in our bedrooms and when we do we hold on to set rules to hide our true being. I am still straight as the man never did it for me. But I admit I tried and am nothing less than a normal straight guy. But guess by some standards it makes me bi-sexual.

I need to note that I hate the word ‘Bi-sexual’. It is wrong in every way. If one would want a ame for a person who likes to have sex with both genders, we could use the word “Hotero”. A mix of Homo (human) and Hetero (which is pretty informal word).

The most funny fact might be that it is the group that feel supreme that is making the rules and set the standards. In order to define themselves is why they do what they do. Real lesbians might have done so by making a gold star lesbian a woman who NEVER had a man or even kissed them. The Hotero is most the time an experiment by woman wanting to find out if some words are true. Nice to be drunk. And it s associated with being hot ( yes we men set that standard guess we feel supreme over women)

But for a guy it is different. For some reason fear kicks in. As if a try with a man makes you gay over night. Surely it doesn’t yet we are afraid b set standards. I believe we have a religion t blame for that). A religion that is still holding on to that believe even though the world is changing.

And that brings me to talking sex. When do we change or start to accept that some standards are wrong. That the straight thinking isn’t supreme. When will we start being human and look at each other that way. When will we stop putting people in boxes or categories over our own thought of supremacy?

I hope for that day that we can all live the same life. Not having to hide who we are or judge on what we think is wrong. When can we be open about ourselves without being judged. When will the time be there, where a Muslim can be a Lesbian or a Christian be Gay.

Just a rant by me about dumb ass who think thy are better than the rest. Have anything to add, feel free to send me a message through the Fly with me page or leave a comment.

Sensual Sunday: Red Riding Hood! Part Four

Welcome once again to my Sensual Sunday Story. I give you part four in our Red Riding Hood story. Yes the fairytale with the same name has been the inspiration for this story but has my own little twist to it. Hope you will enjoy this weeks addition.

Sensual Sunday: Red Riding Hood! Part Four.

Not the first time I see jess naked but this time something else is happening to me. A fire has ignited feeling her red hair caressing my face. Through the silk I see her eyes sparkle with lust. The thrill is exciting me when a hand rubs the dress over my shoulder exposing my pale skin. Her touch is soft following my collarbone around the curve to my arm. Shivers run across my body an unexplained arousal that is taking over. The tearing sound of the seems with a heavy pull on both sides uncovering my breast. 

Jess mixes her soft touches with wild sizzling tugs. Her lips are licked by her tongue, I can see it so clear, her image of a seductress, untamed hunger she final put to a rest. Her sways f her hips, followed by the rubs of her hands on her sexy body. I start to react while being sucked against the bed. My heart beat has become faster and has me feel it through out every corner of my body. It makes my skin shiver, body set in flames and the arousing trembles giving my mind an exceptional high. 

I must be dreaming. I cannot move but I can see her clear as day. I feel hungry, a blood thirst for my best friend Jess. Ears focused on her breathing and beating heart. I stare at her face and enchanting eyes. My body is changing and taking control of my sensuous behaviour. 

“What eager eyes you have?” she sounded bewitching and had me gaze and follow her every curve with sexual intensions. 

-“It is so I can embrace your silhouette in full glory” My words rolled of my tongue still teasing my lips                                   

“What luscious lips you got Sweetie?” Her mouth moved in harmony with the words, slowly approaching mine. 

Without thought I answered in an provocative voice. “Made to kiss  your velvet lips and taste your desire.” 

Her lips lock onto mine with our tongues in a frenzy, my body shocks and squirms with delight. A string of saliva drips down on my raped mouth, I eagerly swallow back as Jess rips away from me. I am turning into an animal, the dusty Granny is gone. All I can think of is wanting more. Her head is laid back into her neck, with a heavy breath her chest moves up and down her hands firmly pressing my shoulders down. “I am in heaven” Her words are swallowed away but heard clear as  glass. In the blink of my eyes I have her staring down on me with animal like eyes. 

“What big soft tits you have” with great care her hands move onto my breasts and start to squeeze and massage with gentle strength.  

I moan feeling her fingers miss my hardened nipples with each pass. “they are for you to play with” My mind is not my own, my body feels alien and yet t feels I want this so bad. Squirms of my body lift her up and down on my hips. Her hands  knowing precisely what to do have me ache with desire. I am set ablaze. with a body in fervour, I moan. “I have never wanted you so badly Jess” 

Now we are coming to an end but I am not sure whether or not I want a Hunter to come into this picture. Never done a scene with two women before so that alone is new and I like how the story is playing out. Not sure it calls for a  Hunter. Or Maybe I will have a sequel to introduce a Hunter. What do you think? Please let me know what you think. And if you have any fun ideas for a story drop them in a comment box and who knows what I can do with them.
Have missed the earlier parts of this story. Click on ‘Sensual Sunday’ on the right or look them up in the Crow’s Nest Under Sensual Sunday Stories.

Sensual Sunday: Red Riding Hood! Part One

Sensual Sunday is back with a new story. Using but a name from a fairy tale we once heard a long time ago. Also entering a new side of story telling that might be odd for a guy, but trying it any way. May you enjoy the new story.

Little Red Riding Hood Art by Keith Garv

Sensual Sunday: Red Riding Hood! Part One

I never thought to be that kind of girl but it was that one night I got out with some of the girls. Always knew about Jess being our little red riding hood with her long red hair, freckles draped across her face, eating from both sides. She to could be considered a wolf in sexy clothes. Her body has the curves on all the right places with a sporty feel to it on times having me feel jealous,

We loved her none the less and most the time I am the who kept her on the right track. Making jokes about being out in the woods doing her thing and always finding a place to spill her heart aches and concerns. And it turned me into her granny. 

I am but 23 years old, living life one step at a time in a hundred puddles. Just got out of school, having me a job in an office. Being so busy I hardly ever have time to get out. Sex is not on the menu every week and on my days off I apparently dressed to dusty like an old lady. Sticking up my black hair with some chopsticks, snuggled up on a sofa with my baggy trousers and a grey knitted sweater three sizes to big. 

No I am not an ugly girl, as Jess often would make jokes she would have me in an instant all over the place. She cracks jokes about being her twin since I can wear her clothes with ease. My baggy clothes make me slightly smaller, having the room to move freely despite my self imagined overweight. 

Back to that night we had so much fun dancing and drinking having the greatest time of our lives. Including me the Granny. Though this time it was Jess who was feeling out of sorts. Her body hanging over the table early in the night and sometimes leaning against me whispering some mumblings I could not make out. Not being the first time I figured it was because she broke up with someone. Tears on occasion rolled down and I would brush through her soft red hair telling her, it would all be all right. 

Her hair was like silk, her smile however drunk still very sexy and teasing. It is moment that she would look at me with her grey eyes that would smother me with ease. A tear could roll from them at any moment, unsure if her blush is from being drunk or something else. Tugged away in a corner, I can’t help but notice her soft breasts either pushing against  arm or thigh. Like a child she is upright or lying down. It might be just the time to take her home. 

With a small word about home, I was surprised she was convinced so easy as she was the wild one to always stay till the end. Helping her in her coat and pulling down her dress over her ass. Arm swept over my shoulder to help her balance on her heels. We laugh and smile about the silliness we display, wobbling left and right across the streets. Sitting down with tears freely flowing from Jess ruining her make up. Picking ourselves up and laugh it off as being goofy and two women having  a girls moment. 

Hope you enjoyed the small introduction and will come back next week for more about Jess our little red riding hood.

Science vs. Religion

Or could they get along?

A post that will provoke but I just want you to think.

So yesterday something happened and got me thinking. On why somethings are still looked at through a scientific eye. I was wrong yesterday to look like that as well. And for that I apologize.

But on with the point of this post. It is about being Gay or Lesbian or straight. Not talking about hotero (I prefer Hotero over bisexuality) since that is mostly a choice if you ask me. Why are there still people looking at it as if they want to scientifically find the answer why a gay or lesbians falls for the same sex. Are they still looking at it as an illness like some bible fanatics, I said some. Who also belief it can be reformed. Are those scientists looking for a so called cure as well. I hate to think so that it is. Does it matter so much why these people feel the way they feel.

Sure we also question the fact if God or how ever you call him/her exists. Simplest question ever asked is does he exist and what proof do you have.
But your thoughts are not treated as a decease or illness. And sure reformers lie waiting for us all. Trying to change us into believing what they believe. We do not say your religion is something that can be cured. So why do some still talk about it as if Homosexuality is an illness.

All we can do is question the fact if he/she does exist. And respect the answer given by any person we ask. Yes or no or maybe a occasional maybe or even there is something just do not know what to call it.
Can we not do the same with our fellow humans who love the same sex. What ever their answer at least respect them for the answer given.

Now science always tries to make sense of things and I am a science freak, but I now know there are questions that will stay unanswered or get answered but will be used for wrong reasons and that is a concern. How much do we then respect a human life and their choices. I love finding answers,but it also leads to knew questions. how far will we go.
It is just going to start a fight between who is right or even better. And wars have started for less then a religious difference.

As a great man once said. Can’t we all just get along.
Should we not respect ones beliefs, right or wrong in order to create a better world.
Lets stop judging on differences. Stop being afraid of differences. Have we not learned enough from our history.

So can science and religion go along, yes they can if they respect each other and they are not used for the wrong ends or as an excuse to start another fight. Let us start to give the example and open our heart for everybody what ever their beliefs.

Best wishes
Ranting Grow

NEWS FLASH:  Just heard on the radio, today is National coming out day, here in the Netherlands a question was asked to the Gay and Lesbian community if they were happy at work. Most are and most also openly talk about being a Gay or Lesbian. It is the Hotero that usually is afraid to come out, most likely to be accused of being greedy and wanting it both ways.

Aren’t we all homo’s?

Be proud of being yourself

That sure got your attention, just that title, Now it could be out of curiosity or out of anger, both is good to me I cannot tell you what your opinion should be. It is the biggest news at the moment across the world. We have the haters , lovers and the people who are not sure. well maybe this post will make you think again about many things. And have you make your own conclusion. Get this straight though that what ever side you choose, the people we are talking about are still like you and me, humans, With a heart and soul, respect them as such, as them being humans. I can not  emphasize it enough.

Now this is written by me, a guy who sexual wise tried it once and can say it is not for me. But being Dutch does make me very open minded about a lot of things. Do not get me wrong, just like in the world even here there is still discrimination towards the people who love the same sex. We once a year have the Gay pride where, both male and female homosexuals (find this a better word) party to the max going to the extreme. Yes male homosexuals dressing up just like in the movies, as big, dressed in leather and chains manly man. Or even walk around in a dress with so much pink it could hurt your eyes. But t is all good. It is about showing that they are people and like to have fun like you and me. A day later they are gone and dressed again like any other. So it is a day they can be frivolous.
There is also the pink Monday, another day we party with the homosexual community. On a carnival in Tilburg, which is the biggest in our country as well. One day every thing is colored pink and no matter what your sexuality is, it is a day to have fun.

Now i can hear some people reading this getting angry. But…
But what, would be my answer.

Oh, you are talking about the Bible, that it should be man and female being together. And being a homosexual is a disease.My answer, i dare you to keep this i mind at all times when ever this topic comes up in a conversation. Was it not Jezus himself who helped everyone, who even held hands with a leper. That is when you think it would be a disease. For the man woman. Never in the bible did I read it was a rule, second of which, in history we already know some books of the bible were deleted, who knows, maybe they did talk about it. Maria of Magdela appeared to be a whore as well. Yes I know never proven, but then again that is with every bit of text ever written, including the Bible. I know it also says, that you should not want your neighbors wife. But neighbor could be female and the addition is there to that you should not want your neighbors house, pets or even servants. And in time of Romans, of which the Bible also speaks it was common to have sex with servants be it woman or man. And last but not least. The Bible always talks about helping and caring fro another. LOVE thy Neighbor so to speak. See the words love. And the word neighbor, the one next to you in front of you or behind you. You preach that God sees us as equals and yet you condemn the people who love their neighbor, even though they are the same sex. Stop hiding behind a book. And start loving all that lives, like Jesus Christ himself did. Been 30 years since i last read it, but know this. Jesus never disliked anyone. Except those who were profiting from the temple.

We are not sure why people feel the way they feel. Some say it is genetic and has to do with upbringing. And some say it is something biological. I think it is the latter. Upbringing has nothing to do with it. And if you think it does then you also think it is wrong to respect and love all humans. Because an upbringing like that gives freedom to follow your own heart.

Now about the title of the post. Aren’t we all homo’s? Well if you came this far to still wanting to know, I applaud you for being open minded and willing to learn so that you can make a decision on the matter.
So the answer is basically a compilation of language and science and even history.
What does homo mean or even gay, where were those words created and how. Well some might already know the answer. First up Gay: Meaning “being carefree” or “happy” Maybe Frivolous would work as well. Only later we started associating it with homosexuality. That is why I prefer to use homosexual.
Next would be Homo: Now in Greek it means “the same” and in Latin it means “man” or “human being” How ever you want to look at it, it makes sense. We are all the same, we are all human. The most common use of the word homo or a the combination with the word is, “Homo sapiens”. Yes again talking about humans the modern kind.. The first to walk on two legs was even called “Homo erectus” and no i am not being funny.

Then there is the matter of people bing grossed out seeing two men  French kiss. Mind you they think it is okay if two women would do it. And if a men and woman do it, it is normal. isn’t that discrimination. I find it gross to watch a man and woman giving tongue as well. We all think it s normal to show love and appreciation. Then stop being a prude and have men give men a kiss as well. Okay, no tongue, but that goes for all combinations for me. Speaking of kisses. Isn’t or wasn’t it normal for Russians and Arabic men to give a kiss on the cheeks as a greeting?

Now for the conclusion. For me it is simple. They are humans, people like you and me. With one difference. They love everyone and are he ones who, i believe, have the most respect for humans, being just that, humans. The are the least likely to judge on preferences or ideals. They won’t speak evil, hatred or lie about their neighbor.
So lets stop the hatred, the discrimination. They deserve respect like you and me for being humans first.

There you have it, my opinion.

Best wishes
Ranting Crow