Monday Moaning: Talking Sex
A subject that boosts every blog in viewers, though it is not my intention. This post is coming form a thought that I got from reading a blog post. And it is more gender related than the actual deed. So many differences within a single word and how we think about it.
In the old days, listen to this old geezer, but still talking about 20 years back it wasn’t common to talk openly about sex. Though in my country it may have been it is not the same everywhere. In this time I seen a lot of change and I think a lot of people have seen it to. How quick we went from keeping it indoors to pretty much see it everywhere. It sells, it most watched and talked about these days.
Remembering talks with other people, one heard different views and opinions. Nobody talked about it openly, but thanks to the internet and being anonymous one could and did. There was and somewhere there still is a taboo surrounding it. But why when it is in our nature.
And that brings us to the reason of this post. How we design rules to justify or control our own behaviour. Creating rules and laws to tell us who and what we are and why we can or should not.
So why are we so obsessed with controlling our sex and the people around us. Even ourselves. To claim what is right or wrong one should first know what is right or wrong. But can we do that.
Depending on culture sex is used for different things. In some regions it is normal to think about ones future and have children to take care of you. Even us westerners had that idea though through change we limit ourselves according to made up rules like; Having to make a career. to ensure a future of good living. Other cultures or maybe even religions dictate sex is only for having children. More and more we now also see the recreational use, thanks to all those new anti conceptions.
So why do we make up things or use a word to control our urges or have something to judge others by saying something is a taboo or plain wrong.
In most countries BDSM is illegal, I know some states uphold this as well. It is after all a law that says abuse is a criminal act. This can be because one does not understand the scene or even lifestyle. Though one can argue the boundaries between abuse and BDSM might be hair thin. So it is a world that hides in shadows and isn’t talked about much. (maybe more now thanks to a certain book and now movie)
That is al about the deed but now what about the gender part. What sex needs rules or words to differentiate a person. Why are we so gung-ho about putting ourselves in boxes or groups while we preach equality.
What makes a straight person straight. Or even a lesbian a “Real” Lesbian or gay. Why do we come up with these terms.
Can every straight man say with a straight face they never checked out a male cock. Hell after sports in the shower did we not check size. Oh guess admitting that would make us afraid to be gay. As a straight person I can admit I tried a man. does that make me bi-sexual all of a sudden (something you did not know about me). Or not a real straight person.
Why do we come up with rules to say who is straight or what kind of person I should be or am according to those useless dictations. The post I read talked about what would make a real Lesbian or Gay for that matter. Why would it be so important to have a rule that creates some kind of supremacy over others.
Sure I admit their might be people who only stayed with their own sex. But does that make them real Gays or Lesbians. So many times we heard stories of people who hid behind their straight lives because words stated that being gay was wrong. Does that make them less gay?
Through rules and laws we build some supremacy and it continues in every thing we do and say. But admitting one have tried a different thing than brings fear so we don’t.
And it is funny how we talk about experimenting in our bedrooms and when we do we hold on to set rules to hide our true being. I am still straight as the man never did it for me. But I admit I tried and am nothing less than a normal straight guy. But guess by some standards it makes me bi-sexual.
I need to note that I hate the word ‘Bi-sexual’. It is wrong in every way. If one would want a ame for a person who likes to have sex with both genders, we could use the word “Hotero”. A mix of Homo (human) and Hetero (which is pretty informal word).
The most funny fact might be that it is the group that feel supreme that is making the rules and set the standards. In order to define themselves is why they do what they do. Real lesbians might have done so by making a gold star lesbian a woman who NEVER had a man or even kissed them. The Hotero is most the time an experiment by woman wanting to find out if some words are true. Nice to be drunk. And it s associated with being hot ( yes we men set that standard guess we feel supreme over women)
But for a guy it is different. For some reason fear kicks in. As if a try with a man makes you gay over night. Surely it doesn’t yet we are afraid b set standards. I believe we have a religion t blame for that). A religion that is still holding on to that believe even though the world is changing.
And that brings me to talking sex. When do we change or start to accept that some standards are wrong. That the straight thinking isn’t supreme. When will we start being human and look at each other that way. When will we stop putting people in boxes or categories over our own thought of supremacy?
I hope for that day that we can all live the same life. Not having to hide who we are or judge on what we think is wrong. When can we be open about ourselves without being judged. When will the time be there, where a Muslim can be a Lesbian or a Christian be Gay.
Just a rant by me about dumb ass who think thy are better than the rest. Have anything to add, feel free to send me a message through the Fly with me page or leave a comment.