Monday Moaning: Questioned Answers!
Last week was about deceiving numbers. And this week I like to address our behaviour when it comes to answers and the way we deceive. How we disguise our answer to be more polite than what we really mean. In a way those who deceive with numbers use this tactic as well.
It is an answer that seems to lean ne way but means the other.
“Sorry you feel that way, I hope if you give it a little time you’ll find it more useful.”
That was an answer I got a week ago. Now the best argument is that it is politically correct answer. But I am sure each who reads it will have some blood boil up. As it implies you can either swim or die. Blunt I know but there is no use it making it sound better. The result is the same.
I just get pissed though. If one ask for comments and reactions about a topic should one not be to one sided to begin with. In that case no matter what we say the outcome is already set.
For one I want people to react and comment. That they don’t is up to them. But it gives me a change to learn and alter my views. Change my way of being to suit a better me.
Constantly evolving with everything one says or does that is how I live life. So if one might suggest I am wrong I will assess the answer they give me and use it in a new to created opinion. It is very simple.
So if one asks for a comment and is given a good explanation than a answer like; “give it time” only kicks you in the shins.
No matter what you say we all had this at work at some point. Sometimes it would get used to other times it is just a nuisance and you start looking for another job. I know I have.
Let us face it not every new idea is a better one.
Neither likes to go around the bush and still we don’t mind. Like a herd we follow the leader and get used to things.
Others are just to scared to even speak up and say nothing. Yeah we know who they are we seen them sitting in a corner of a meeting. Looking down on their papers. Not to mention the ones with the biggest mouth when the are out side of the meeting. Talk big behind the back but when point comes to shove they keep silent. Hoping someone else will take over their view.
I lost my job for speaking up. But I did not regret speaking up my discontent. At least it was out in the open. What is done after is beyond me. Yup colleagues like the big mouth all kept quiet and surely did not back me up. That is in front of the boss. After work they were all friends.
So how deceitful are we. That we deny a truth or stop to listen before hand. Already having made a decision. It is sad that you say will listen but cover your ears.
We are like those monkeys; Hear no evil, See no evil, speak no evil.
And don’t get started on; Silence is Golden.
Soon as we stop talking we stop learning and evolving. The time we stop listening we stop learning and evolving. We just turn a blind eye to all around us when our ass is on the line.
Still does one want to burn their ass by going along with a change that is only creating a heavier workload. Should we stop speaking after we chose a president. Should he stop listening just because he got chosen.
Communication is something given to us and we don’t use it to improve our way of living. We are all set on a one track mind. Okay maybe not all. Forgetting about what it will do who are involved.
Don’t get me wrong here but all our noses are set into one direction and we don’t even consider whether it is right or wrong. We just believe and follow. And those who speak up are sometimes seen as a nuisance.
It is kind of like science and the new media is like that.
There was a guy who said the world was round one time. He was laughed at and needed to proof his point. All our noses were set in one direction and another after proof.
Yet here we are taking things said for granted not speaking u when we can have an opinion of our own. We hardly think about what is said we look it up. And the answer is taken for granted. It is our new set direction.
So how do words we hear change us. Do they still change us or has our mind already been made up? Do we speak up so we can hear from others what they think? Or do we give up trying and just let them decide?
These are question I struggle with when someone says give it time to get used to. As if I can’t think for myself. As if I can’t have an answer that might suit the need better.
To think for yourself is a privilege we have in this life. We will make mistakes but we learn from them and carry them on. Becoming a better person starts with you so question yourself. Listen to others, talk to others in which we come to new ideas. And don’t forget to respect the answer you hear. They are not you and they might alter their opinion after listening to you.
And when speaking up, be truthful, nobody benefits from listening to a lie.