Bullying Values, a title that makes you wonder and think. Do we bully values or have values for bullying.
Now more and more we hear of bullying but why is it so exponentially growing. What could be the cause that more people, children are being bullied. And what can be done to prevent it from happening. Is it something we can prevent.
It obviously start at home with teaching children values. But the norm for normal is different in every household, how can we teach a child any value if it differs so much. There is more to teach them but how can we if we have been taught the same difference in values.
Bullying is done for differences in poor or rich, or what your child wears, or how they look in general. But who says what is normal and what is not. Who says that being different is weird and should be teased. Now we parents tent to shove lots of that responsibility to the schools. They are after all the institute that teaches everything. All the way up to sex education even, on some schools. But is that right.
Now more schools say tat parents should help more fight of bullying. But the big question than is how. I been brought up to stand up for myself. Not take bullshit from any one. And bullies are just afraid. I turned out to be bullying as well at some point, for what reason I cannot even remember. But okay parents should help out more.
Speak to the one being bullied. Uh, now what to say. It is okay, they are just words. Wait we all know that it does not work that way. We all know that when something is repeatedly told you start believing it yourself. And they usually stand alone against an army of 2 or more. How can a parent help there telling about values, these children know better than any one how it works. And how is a parent going to stop the bullying online. All it takes is an anonymous account. And knowing the mail of the one being bullied.
Makes you wonder what we have been coming to, to allow these things. As if we have not learned anything from our own time in school. Watching bullies, being bullied or being the bully.
But school want parents to interact more and help. So can we help the bullies. Well yes we can if they are being taught the proper values. But how stupid do we look when we see rich kids who have it all bullying because their values are perfect and always pristine. Or the bullies that bully because they are bullied by parents themselves to be stronger, not so weak. How can we ask those parents to talk to their children. They either have no time or everything goes through a maid of some sort, or being drilled by an officer or higher-up of a company. Or maybe parents who are more of a lower class. Always having to fight to get what they want telling their children life is hard so you need to toughen up. If you cannot learn as well you need to fight and work harder.
These are of course two extremes, but it shows the difference in values the best. It is about teaching respect and ’Normal’ values, what ever normal may be, since we do not know what that is ourselves. But what parent should help what child. Or should parents come to school and take over a class about bullying, teaching respect and values.
But I know that a parent being an astronaut is better than having a parent who cleans sewers.
Somehow they always find something to bully about. Where have we gone wrong. Is the difference so big between people. Are we all living in our own little bubbles, unaware of everyone else’s situation and value of normal.
Should we not work together as ONE.
Now understand I do not have a degree in psychology or anything else. This is my thoughts on the situation, and I would love to hear from you as well. Did I get something wrong please tell me.
Speak up please, Are you a bully tell us why? Are you being bullied teach us how to understand more. If you watch jump in for a change and STOP it.
Nice, sensible post Ranting.
I try to be 🙂 thanks for taking the time to read.